tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8721349208716017855.post8931911723375564252..comments2024-03-25T02:38:03.448-05:00Comments on A Special Purposed Life: When you have R Rated MemoriesEvanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14305442363592369804noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8721349208716017855.post-82912806553439470552015-09-25T12:47:22.552-05:002015-09-25T12:47:22.552-05:00I don't think avoiding them helps, focusing on...I don't think avoiding them helps, focusing on things to be grateful helps. I do break R rated memories into avoidable and unavoidable - the avoidable ones I try to learn what I can to avoid similar situations and go forward. The unavoidable that help my kid get better I make peace with and we work on ways she can cope with repeated bad experiences. The rest I have trouble with and accept some (e.g. seizures might never be controlled) and rail against others.<br /><br />Getting an IV line in the head is not uncommon for infants. That's the only thing that worked for my daughter's first surgery. The surgeons were joking about the anesthesiology docs after, did loosen some of the tension but it made a short brain surgery take almost two hours and we were pretty freaked out. We are good buddies with the IV team because they are the only ones who can get a line in for countless trips to the hospital. Lots of suffering (via know it all nurses) until we got connected to them and they made sure her IV instructions require calling them (and other steps staff don't normally do). Most of those R rated memories could have been alleviated by people recognizing the situation and calling in experts sooner and that stings. I don't stick with medical people that have any red flags when I can avoid them.<br /><br />The surgeon saying he doesn't think he'll be able to address constant pain issues more than temporarily at best is hard for me to digest for an 8yo. Child still will need surgery at times for the rest of her life, just doing more than is necessary can make things worse and that line is different for every patient/family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com